Each time we step a little out of our comfort zone to areas beyond that, a part of our story will surface.
Maybe you are like me and you strive for proficiency. You want to really shine in all the things that you bring to the world.
The level of self-confidence you bring to the table when tackling something outside your comfort zone can very often mean the difference between succeeding fabulously, or failing miserably.
Self-Confidence is something we build.
We are consistently having experiences in our life, and depending on how those experiences turn out we build a story around whether we are competent and capable in that area or not. We either build our self-confidence or we erode it.
So how do we change this?
Create practices, and approach them with a state of playfulness, a state of curiosity and start playing with things. Start trying things out, start practicing. Bring a lightness to what you try and get curious so that you can start building your self-confidence in areas where you have a story from the past that has stripped you of any confidence.
You see our story’s usually cause us to shrink back, to pull away from things and this makes it really difficult to grow and to step confidently forward.
Be aware of your story
To be aware of your story – be on the look out for emotions such as:
- Anxiety
- Stress
- Depression or sadness
- Hopelessness
Be on the look out for thoughts such as:
- I am not good enough
- I will never be able to do this
- Who am I to think that I can do this
Each of these are triggers, reminders, bells that awaken you to the fact that you have stepped out of your comfort zone and into this space that you are uncomfortable with.
Once you notice you can make a choice…
As soon as you can notice these, you can make a choice to:
- Go within
- Connect with your heart space
- Ground yourself into the earth
- Pull in the energy of support and alignment
And then tell yourself:
“Just for today, I am going see what happens, I am going to play with this and see where it leads me.”
Each time you approach things with this energy, you are in a space where you can build your self-confidence. Then before you know it something that is totally unfamiliar to you, something you never thought you would be able to do you can do. And you may even be able to do it quite well. You may even be surprised at how much fun you have doing it. You may even become an expert in this area, with other people coming to learn from you.
All you need to do is to have a willingness and some curiosity towards learning and playing with new things.
Be open to the fact that things may not work out the way you expect – and instead of seeing this as a failure, you see it as an opportunity.
Can we take a page out of a child’s book?
I worked for many years in the childcare industry and one of the things that I absolutely love about kids is their tenacity to keep on going despite what we would call failure.
Watching a child learning to walk, they fall over so many times. If you had to sit there with a counter and click it each time they fall over before they get to walk. You would be amazed at how many times they “fail” before they succeed. They have this desire, this need, this want to learn, to explore what walking has to offer them. Their desire keeps them going and far outweighs any of the downsides of failing over so many times.
Perhaps you can consider this and pull some of this level of energy into your space as you step out of your comfort zone and into new spaces.
Start getting curious about where life can lead you and taking the focus off:
- “What happens if I fail.”
- “I don’t know if I can do this.”
- “I’m not sure if I have this in me.”
Then move to:
- Get really grounded and centered.
- Connect to your own beautiful energy and step forward from that space.
- Play, have fun.
Before you know it you will be doing amazingly.
Self-confidence is really something that you build. Keep playing , keep working with it and you will get there.
It is so important for you to:
- Stay in alignment with your heart space
- Align with what feels right, what feels true for you on the inside
- Keep a check on your emotions, your thoughts, your feelings and your old stories that pop up as you start to stretch yourself
- Ensure that your thoughts, emotions, feelings and old stories do not cloud your connection to your inner heart space
- The more you connect to your heart space the more you will just know what direction you need to move in.
This will reveal you confidence and you will feel more and more as if nothing can stop you from getting there.
Have a magical week.
Sending love and light
Lynda
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